Thank You

Thank you to everyone for the outpouring of support on yesterday's post! I am still in the process of responding to the comments and I appreciate every one of them. THIS is what I missed about blogging.

The new Blogsy app for the iPad is making getting back into blogging that much easier, as well. It makes it very easy to post pics from your camera roll and is a very easy to use interface. There are some bells and whistles I haven't explored yet, but it is a really good app to have and well worth the $4.99 or whatever it was.

I thought I'd show a picture of a knitting project I'm working on. A number of years back, I made an Opulent Raglan from the pattern that Wendy Bernard published in Knitscene and have worn it quite often (something that unfortunately I can't say about that many of my handknit sweaters - there are maybe 10 that I wear often and the others mainly sit in the drawer.) I had purchased four skeins of Madelinetosh Vintage in "tart" (a luscious red) on sale and needed to find a sweater pattern that only required 800 yards or less of yarn, so I opted to make another one. Here it is so far:

Another thing that just occurred to me as I go through this decision making process about where to live: I have a great local yarn shop, Loopy Yarns, just around the corner from where I live now, which is where I got my Madelinetosh. How cool is it that I can actually WALK to buy yarn?

On a separate but related note, I did a lot of thinking when I was reading all of your comments and I decided to do a pros-cons list. I've not decided yet, but it came out highly in favor of staying in the city. My "gut" tells me it's what I want, but it's just the financial aspects that make my practical finance person self squirm and try to go the less expensive route. but my happiness is worth something too.

The other thing I thought about was that for the same or less than what I pay in rent right now, I could also buy a great condo or townhouse in the same neighborhood (from which I can and do walk to work- I did yesterday both ways, logging four miles) with more space and have the tax deductions that go along with it. I can't do it right now, because I would have to get a renter in my old house and save some money to put down as Jim's "parting gift" is going to hit my savings fairly hard, but in only six months to a year from now the picture will be very different.

Back when I was trying to decide what to do about my former marriage, a friend of mine asked me to imagine how I would feel if he and I mutually agreed to split, and he was ok with me leaving and things could be cordial. I immediately sighed in relief. She told me that was my answer. That's how I feel about living in the city. If someone told me that I could have good renters in the house who at least covered the mortgage (realtors I've consulted are telling me this is very likely the case) or I could sell the house and break even, I would sigh a big sigh of relief. Throughout this whole thing, I haven't asked for much and have been willing to compromise a lot. Now I don't want to compromise. I want what I want. That may sound selfish, but I can be that way now.

 

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Comments

[Carolyn]

I've read both posts and think you should go with the thing that brings peace to your soul. Personally, I think the city will bring you the new life you seek and sometimes you need to jump off the cliff to go forward. So jump girl, the landing will be soft and you will be thrilled with your new environment!

[Andrea]

I agree with Carolyn. I say cut your losses and be happy. It might take a bit for things to finally straighten themselves out, but in the long run, it will be worth it. I hope that makes sense.

[Javie]

Awesome new place! I say go with your gut. You will have a clean start for your new life, plus no old memories to weigh you down. Hopefully you can rent the old place but I would even consider taking the loss and selling it. Hopefully 2013 will be better!

[Kyle]

Live the life that you want. That apt is fab! Don't worry about the money. Did you read (or see) Eat Pray Love? She lost all her money (to her ex) and got it all back (through her book).

[Susan - Knitters Delight]

Be selfish. Why do so many of us put ourselves last. If we can't even make "us" a priority, no one else ever will. BRAVO! I'm really working on that one in 2013 too.

[Mandy]

Go for it. You need to put yourself first. It sounds as if 2013 should be a really good year for you.

[Michelle B]

To me it sounds like you want to stay in the city! I say sell the house...and get it out of your life and move on! Then in 6 months or so you can look for a condo or whatever!

I wish you good luck in your difficult decision!

I am slightly jealous of your LYS being soooo close! Then I might spend all my $$ there if I were that close!

[Leslie]

That would be such a tough decision to decide where to live, whether to sell or rent, etc. Sounds like you are on the right track to deciding though. And your sweater in progress looks gorgeous!